Adamaya - Multilevel Marketing Business

Hi, it's been quite a while since i visited my own blog. I've been wanting to but been so couped up with my work schedules and by the time I got back home just in time to put my kids to sleep, shower and go to bed.

Been traveling a lot to conduct Image workshops plus juggling the time in between to prepare for my Image column for The Sunday Star weekly and now I have a multilevel marketing business to concentrate on is quite a handful task and a big responsibility.

Just got back from Jakarta to conduct an Image workshop for the Vvips of Indonesia that includes deputy ministers, ambassadors wives , entrepreneurs and the wives of Indonesian conglomerates organized by the Malaysian Ladies Association in Jakarta headed by the Malaysian Embassy. It was an awesome and fruitful experience networking with all the influential ladies of Indonesia and of course being able to penetrate into another market segmentation in another country. It was really interesting to see how the ladies over there really took the initiatives and extra effort to look good and dress up for the occasion. It's quite a difference compared to our Malaysian ladies where they need to be told to do it at times.

I managed to sell all 50 copies of my books and there have been requests to invite me there again to conduct workshops for their respective organizations. I am really looking forward to that definitely. As always, I like to see things in different perspectives and I see opportunities in everything. I was also being told that it would be a great idea to market Adamaya products there and their population is huge . Well I might just do that.... soon.

Talking about my multilevel marketing business, I am now in the midths of doing a road tour with the Adamaya team and leaders in a few states in Malaysia. Since we finally got our AJL [ Akta Jualan Langsung a direct sales licence to trade] licence last month , we are moving aggressively to promote our consumer product label and brand , Adamaya. We have covered Skudai and Masai in Johor, Kuala Pilah in Melaka, Butterworth and moving on to Sungai Petani Kedah and also a few places in Ipoh. We will be going to the east coast after I come back from my AICI conference in Vancouver , Canada and New York ,the first week of June.

This is my new life now.. meeting people from the rural areas and offering job and business oppportunities and the chance to generate extra income for their families . Mind you this is the best business to venture into if you want to have the financial freedom and become a millionaire in no time.

Adamaya is a product based multilevel company that will be around for a very long time. My vision is to make it a legacy for many generations to come and it will be one of the biggest if not the biggest in the world one day ..insyaallah .This is my vow and I hope the universe is listening! IT IS NOT A MONEY GAME . So for those of you who are interested to create a passive income don't hesitate to join us and we will give you all the support you need. All you have to do is to believe in Adamaya.

Adamaya is also a registered trademark since 2006 and no parties are allowed to use this brand name for business or commercial purposes without our consent. We would like to highlight this matter because we found out that there are a few parties who have used our brand name to operate a cafe, spa and also a TV drama series.. I hereby confirmed that we are the only owner and founder of this registered trademark and our nature of business started out as a Hairsalon then into Image Consultancy and now our latest diversification is into a Multilevel Marketing Company. Please be informed.

If you come across anyone using my brand name, Adamaya, for other businesses , please do not hesitate to email me at shawady@yahoo.com immediately. Your co-operation is highly appreciated.

Thank you for reading.

Luv, Shawati

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Health Is Wealth

For the past 2 days i've been laying in my bed due to a bad back. The doctor advised me to be bedridden and i'm not allowed to wear high heels, not to drive for at least 5 months and not to carry heavy things, not too stand too long or sit too long....

It happened the minute i got out of the car when i arrived at a friends's book launch. It was quite embarassing when i actually had to be held in the arms to walk and another friend had to carry my handbag and my high heels. So i left early and amazingly i could drive and it didnt hurt when i was sitting down.

My thoughts were running wild thinking of the pain and full of what if's. Then i realized i should controll all these negative thoughts and tried to recall the solutions when it happened to me before back in the 90's when i was flying with MAS- when it all started, I had a slipped disc.I found out that Pak Cik Ngah , the old ustaz a family friend from Kota Bharu have already passed away a few years ago. No physiotherapies or medicine in hospitals could help but what he did to me was a miracle. I remembered I flew to Kota Bharu on a wheel chair but came back 4 days after that walking nicely. Everyone suggested i go for the operation and some of my friends now who opted for the operation are now suffering from parralysis.

I heard of this special man who is also neurology specialist serving in a few hopspitals in K.L from a good friend who is a masseuse and I went to his clinic in Gombak 2 days ago with my husband.. That day i couldnt even walk or stand properly and the pain was exruciating. What he did was he fixed 'all the alignments in my whole body ' and it was quite painful. That night I could sleep and there was no more pain but i still couldnt stand properly. I felt like an old lady.

The next day I went for my second treatment and alhamdulillah today i'm able to stand up straight again but with very careful steps and care. Its amazing how he does it and i think this guy should be given so much credit for what he's doing .The hospitals are charging so much for all these physiotherapies techniques that only could relieve you temporarily but do not cure you!

So I'm still resting and taking the opportunity to catch up on my reading and surfing the net for some information and knowledge. The most important thing for me now is to get well and I cant wait to start work again. What's life without being able to do what you love doing and without being able to enjoy the moments of happiness with your loved ones. This experience taught me how important it is to take care of your health and there's nothing more important than having good health than so much wealth but not being able to enjoy life to the fullest.


Moral of the story is Health Is Wealth. With good health you can create wealth but with wealth not necessarily you can get your health back.

Take care!

Luv,

Shawati

Welcome to New Year 2010

The new 2010 curtain has been raised and we are supposed to welcome it by moving on to the next chapter in life with much renewed optimisms and super re-charged energy.

Analysts in America were heard saying that the economic crisis 'syndrome' is slowly fading out and on the other note this year of the Tiger, many Feng Shui masters are predicting that it will be a challenging year but we are encouraged to use our personal and individual talents that could land us a sudden luck and great opportunities. Well haven't we heard all these before...they do sound familiar right.

2009 has been good year for me as well as my career development is concerned.

I'm glad that our society now have started to realize the importance of having the right Image for their staff to represent their companies and organizations and therefor the requests for Image Workshops have increased tremendously.

My first book on Image Building titled 'Imej- Diri Anda Aset Anda' was launched successfully by ex Minister of Trade Tan Sri Rafidah Aziz who happens to be my Icon. An unforgettable moment ever.

Adamaya my company, from a HairSalon and an Image Consultancy firm , we have extended our wings to another diversification which is Product Manufacturing , Marketing and Trading services. Adamaya Marketing Sdn Bhd was created.

We have also secured some great projects for Adamaya Marketing and we believe that 2010 will be a productive year for everyone who have joined us.

Then it was an offer to host a reality show on TV9 called 'Gadis Melayu' for 12 episodes.

Then another offer to be the Image columnist for Mingguan The Star for Star publications for whole year 2010.

Then being given the title as the 20 Most Glam by 'GLAM' magazine was an honour.

My hope for this year is to materialise my dreams and vision to make 'Adamaya' a well known brand all over Malaysia , then Asia in the arena of Multilevel Marketing Business.

'Adamaya' product lines will be officially launched before the Chinese New Year celebration at its headquarters in Kota Damansara near Sg Buloh.

Well for me no matter what Adamaya is moving on with great speed and there's no stopping us!

To me there's no point in making new resolutions every year when the old ones were kept unresolved... be it in your career, family or personal relationships .. sometimes there are a few issues/things/people you need to let go in order to free yourself from the emotional burden you've been having that became the barriers and limitations towards showing your full potential and giving your best focus in achieving your goals. Get it ?

'Life's real failure is when you do not realize how close you were to success when you give up....'

Happy New Year 2010 to everyone and wish you all the best !

Luv,

Shawati

20 Most Glam 2009

Been accredited as one of the 20 Most Glamourous Women 2009 in Malaysia by GLAM the exclusive fashion and society magazine in Malaysia.

The glamourous event to announce the line up took place at The Royale Chulan Hotel in Kuala Lumpur, on the 16th Dec 2009.

The criteria for this accreditation was to honour women with substance, one who has balance in their careers, family and social life and have achieved a remarkable level of success.

The other 19 were women from various backgrounds and professions in the showbiz and other industries.

Its an honour to receive it and I thank God for his blessings everyday. Alhamdulillah.

Where Is The Love.

'Love is the food for the soul'..... yes indeed it is and i truly agree.

Without 'love' you get emotional

Without 'love' you get depressed

Without 'love' you get angry

Without 'love' you feel cheated

Without 'love' you become demotivated

Without 'love' you become lonely

Without 'love' you become a different person

Without 'love' , YOU are a lost soul.......

When all the negative feelings above are created .... and everyone is feeling miserable - not a very good sight ..and not very productive for every aspects of living.

Would you like to see a smiley face or a sad face?

So why can't we give more love? The world today needs more LOVE.

Give and share more love so that you will get more life pleasures in return.

What is friendship without love? What is friendship without care? What is friendship without sincerity?

There shouldn't be any excuses if you have 'love'.

For the ladies , if you are in a relationship or even casual friendship or just a fling, if you don't have all these 3 elements of love, care and sincerity - move on and say to yourself , ' I love myself too much too deserve this. I will only settle for the best and nothing less'. Say this with conviction and head up high! Give your love to someone who deserve it and who truly need it.

An old man once advised me , ' Judge a man by his actions, not his words'. Yup ..talk is cheap.

So lets be strong and set our standards.

Luv,

Shawati

Columnist For Mingguan Mstar 2010

Hi there,

It's been a long time since I visited my own blog. Been tied up with work and events. So many things happened and I'm just taking one step at a time to enjoy gods blessings and just be in the moment.

There was a particular time when I was really down and I told myself this cant be it and I tried my best to re-assess of what's really important to me and what really matters. So as usual I re-read the book 'The Secrets' and the next few days things start to change again. See... you can control your mind and YOU are the creation of your destiny. The choice is yours whether to entertain your misery or choose to be happy.

Anyway just would like to share with you that I will be joining The Star Publications team as the contract columnist for a year effective January 2010. I will have my own 1 page column to write about topics on Image Building and Etiquette. This column will be in Mingguan Mstar of which will be inserted in The Sunday Star every Sunday of course. Readers will have the benefit of having English and Bahasa 2 in 1 without paying extra and thats value for money!

Don't forget to grab a copy of 'The Sunday Star' effective January next year and do let me know if you have any suggestions on the topics you would like me to write regards to Image Building , Etiquette and Tips in fashion. Hope to hear feedbacks from you soon!

Luv,

Shawati

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A Wierd Moment

An incident happened today and I thought it was really funny but touchy.

I went for my normal yearly check up with my Gynae ,..you know the thorough body check up for women to detect any abnormalities in your health....etc.

When I got there I was attended by this new medical assistant whom never attended or spoke to me before this but I noticed that she was a bit reserved with me and I didn't know why. So I reserved my comments.

Then she called out my name to go in and started preparing the room before the doctor comes in to check me.

So I was dressed only hips up and laid on the 'check bed' or whatever you call it. Then she said to me, ' You know ..when I was small I used to watch you reading the news all the time and whenever you read , I would repeat after you infront of the Tv and my mom also knows this. And now I can't believe it that I am here in the same room and I am attending to you.'

Feeling a bit embarrased thinking how awkward it is that we have to meet this way.. I mean having your fan seing you half naked....then I tried to be casual about it and said to her ' How old are you now...suddenly I feel so old..'. She laughed and said ' I'm 26. Then I asked her ,' So why didn 't you pursue your dream to be a newsreader?' She said, ' Because of financial problems la..'.

Then I said to her ' To be a newsreader does not need much money coz when I started I just went for the audition like everyone else and if you're really determined and sure of yourself I think you should continue your dream.'. She answered me ' Its ok, it's too late now but do you know that I became the best speaker in my school because of you?'.

I was so touched by her words and said ' Really I am so honoured to hear this thank you.. but I still think you shouldn't forget your dreams. Don't give up.'

There you go.. at first I thought this girl doesnt like me coz she didn't even look at me when I arrived but for all you know she was very shy. If I hadn't had the sense of perseverence , she would have been misunderstood.

After talking to her I do sense the feeling of unhappiness and loneliness in her. She could have no one to talk to , to share her passion and her dreams. I really would like to see her at least try to go for an audition. It makes me sad to see someone give up without an attempt to try. You will never know how far you can go unless you try.

It would be a waste to just deny a gift that god has given you.

I wouldn't want to grow old and say to myself ' I should have done that coz by then it would be too late. But if you had tried and it didn't work out , at least you know where your strengths and weaknesses are.

So if any of you young ladies and gentlemen are reading this my advice is , please just focus on your dream and you will get it. All you have to do is believe in yourself then others will believe you.

'Better to live one year as a tiger than a hundred as a sheep' - Madonna.

Hariraya- To Forgive and Forget.

Hariraya is supposedly a time for you to enjoy the moment of happiness being with family members , relatives and visiting friends to ask for forgiveness and to forgive any wrong doings in the past.

Though I always thought that you don't have to wait for only on Hariraya to do it coz if you are conscious with your well-being and understand the basic fundamentals of courtesy it can become a habitual thing that you do everyday.

When I was young my parents always reminded me to respect the elderly no matter who they are and never underestimate anyone coz you'll never know that one day you might need their help. This thought has been with me and since then I despise people who are rude to the elderly. I do believe that if you don't respect the elderly no matter who you are or what you are - you are nothing.

I'm writing this because it happened infront of my eyes during this raya in an open house. A group of middle aged intellectuals from various high ranking position in their jobs one of them were the host were busy talking among themselves and didn't even notice an elderly lady with her husband coming into the house. They were greeted by the hosts uncle and was seated in the other lounge.

I was just observing this group of people who couldn't care less about the existence of the couple and carried on talking and gigling loudly.

The couple seated for an hour in the lounge and kept asking for the host and wondering where she was. Then the uncle went and told the host to go and greet the couple but she just kept on talking to her friends.

Finally the couple was about to leave then they saw the host and went up to her to 'salam' the muslim traditional way. The host just sat there and didn't even stand up to show her respect but just coldly shook hands with the couple.

I felt so bad for the couple. It's hariraya and how could this happen. We're supposed to make our guests feel welcome and what happen to our sense of humanity and courtesy?

I hate to say this but if things are not done with sincerity then whats the point of doing it just for the sake of just doing it?

So I went back home and had a long private talk to my kids to make sure they understood the same thing I did ....back when I was at their age....

My book 'Imej -Diri Anda Aset Anda' -the Book Of The Month July 2009 -Airasia Travel 3Sixty

Sharifah Shawati's book 'Imej-Diri Anda Aset Anda' was featured as 'Book Of The Month' in July issue 2009 of Airasia Travel 3Sixty Inflight Magazine!

Do get your copy at any MPH bookstores or book online with the authors signature in it at http://www.adamaya.com.my/. Lifetime investment and value for money only Rm 39.90!

Rejuvenate.Reveal.Reborn. !

Special Interview In Airasia's Inflight Magazine Travel 3Sixty, September 2009 issue.

An insight on Image Consulting and Sharifah Shawati's book 'Imej- Diri Anda Aset Anda'. Don't miss this article and have a glance in this useful inflight reading material when you are on board!

For more info please log on to www.adamaya.com.my and sharifahshawati.blogspot.com.

Media Write Up - Madams Chair Business Magazine Sept. 2009

Interview on my latest business venture in one of the prestigious business magazine in Malaysia called 'Madams Chair' done by a very credible writer Dazman Manan. Please get your copy of Madams Chair magazine September issue and turn to page 102 & 103.

Thank you for all your support!

Adamaya Workshop Treat!

My dear friends and followers out there,

I am pleased to announce that starting from November 2009 I will be organizing a weekly 2 hours Image Talk on Visual Impact in the training room at my office that comes with a very special offer!

Rm 250 only and you will get :

1 hour Image workshop, 2 pm- 4pm , Friday
Free membership worth Rm 150 to join the Adamaya Group
and
Bring back Rm 150 worth of Adamaya products of your choice!

A light refreshment will be served.

Limited to only 15 pax weekly. Book your seat now and don't miss the opportunity to learn more about the art of looking good!

All you have to do is contact Mr. Robin 017 463 1113 to get full details of the workshop and our location map.

Hope to see you soon!

Thank you.

Another Year...wiser...

They say life begins at 40. I heard that many times before and now in the new millenium someone just told me , 40 is the new 30 !

Yes I agree. I really don't feel 40 at all but I just feel 30 even more energized than I was back then.. I feel that there are so many things to explore in life and it will be a waste to dwell on unnecessary things such as worrying about getting another year older.

Life is a journey not a destination. My wish now is for god to allow me to continue my journey and live life to the fullest.

Through the years I must say that I've learned a lot from my weaknesses and mistakes and turned them into my strength. Experience taught me how to be stronger mentally and spiritualy. Like the saying goes, 'when the going gets tough, the tough gets tougher...' . I have grown emotionally with some sense of endurance.

Being a normal human being sometimes I admit that I do get upset over certain things such as not being able to produce the result you want or getting cold treatment from people for no concrete reason or being resentful over certain things ...but then again eventually I thought... life is too short. They say misery needs company ..so I decided not to entertain those thoughts because it can be very damaging for your well-being.

I just tell myself that, all the garbage in your life is the fertilizer of your growth .

I used to be a person who strives for perfection in everything . Some people like me and some people find it a turn-off. But thats me... but over time I have managed to adjust myself to different situations. I can't please everyone. I think it's better than being a hipocrete and live in a lie.

It doesnt matter who you are, what you are or at what stage in life you are in... just remember this - being happy does not mean that everything is perfect..it means that you have decided to look beyond imperfections.

All you have to do is take care of your health, your mind and your soul then you will be at peace.

Forget the feeling of hate.
Forget the feeling of hurt.
Live life in simplicity.
Forgive and move on.

Cheers to 40!

Change & Diversification

Hi all! It's been quite a while since i jot down anything. Well ..a lot of things have been happening in my life right now and I am just overwhelmed with the changes.

If you have followed the journey of my career , you would be able to understand the feelings of excitement, eagerness and how energized I am feeling right now.

I can still recall a question asked by a reporter from the Mas Inflight magazine in a one page article back in 2002. She asked me 'Shawati having achieved all this..being a flight stewardess then a broadcaster and now an entrepreneur ..what would be your ultimate goal?'. My answer to her was ,' I would like to be a millionaire at the age of 40!'. That was 8 years ago and without realizing it then I was already practising the LOA [ Law of Atrraction] telling the universe what I wanted and it started manifesting for me slowly but surely. I wasn't quite sure about how to achieve that but I guess my chosen path has led me to the point I am now.

I have attended many motivational seminars done by local and international speakers and they spoke about ways to become a millionaire such as doing multiple jobs to create passive income, write books and get royalties from them, sell products and invest in properties..
I have been doing just that , I've been multitasking in my work, I 've published a book and now my company is diversifying into Manufacturing, Marketing and Trading various products.

Yes that's right I have mentioned in my media interviews about coming out with my own product a few times but it never materialized due to so many inconviniences and it just wasn't the right time. I went through a lot of hurdles in the process of trying to produce my products and was feeling demotivated at some point.

But early last month suddenly came a 'silver lining' and my dream came true.

Within a month I found myself shifting to my new office cum factory and everything just fell into the right place.

We are currently developing our own product label in skincare, haircare, healthcare, household care and specialty products simply called 'adamaya' . It will be launched after raya. We also provide special labelling and packaging for companies and government institutions to cater to their needs.

In other words I am happy to open the doors to anyone who are seeking for opportunities to make the extra income revenues and achieve the financial freedom you have always wanted.

So feel free to share this moment of truth with me and my company and we shall grow together!

If you are interested please feel free to give me your contact numbers and we shall organize your visit to view the products and to get a thorough understanding on the benefits you will be getting.

Do visit my website at http://www.adamaya.com.my/ to get brief idea of the services we offer.

Hope to hear from you soon and thank you for your time reading this note. Hopefully you will get inspired and start executing your goals!
If I dared to dream ..you can too!

'When you have come to a dead end, all is not lost - you have been given a gift of boundless possibilities!'

Thank you.

My Little Adventure In The Wilderness

13th July 2009

The production crew, the 12 contestants of gadis melayu and myself the host all gathered at Sri Pentas before departing to Gopeng, Perak by bus to shoot for the second episode of the reality show Gadis Melayu Musim Ke 2.

The shoot began during the journey itself and it went well.

We reached Gopeng and stopped by at a Homestay to meet some of the village people and was greeted by our location sponsors and Tourism Malaysia. It was like a gesture to welcome all of us and we were served local delicacies while the crew took this opportunity to shoot how these girls relate to the old folks and mingled with them. Yes, that counts.

Then we headed to our resort and was transported in four wheel drives because the road to the resort was very narrow and steep and the girls were transported in a small err opened roof ...lorry...in the hot sun. Yes , part of the tests.

We were so excited to get to the resort to freshen up and to start our shoot as fast as possible.

Then finally we arrived at the resort and received a warm greeting from the manager of the resort. Nevertheless I was actually expecting a different type of ambience but it was quite 'laid back' in every sense of it. Then i realized that it was actually an 'eco resort' , everything is 'au naturel' , back to nature.. it was really peaceful and quiet except that you can hear some birds chirping and monkeys on the loose...!

My mind started wondering and wondering and wondering further... this can't be it coz i hate jungles, animals and quietness . Then the manager lead Awin , the make-up artist and myself to our room. It was a chalet very nicely built from bamboos and it looked very traditional and ethnic.. but when we opened the door.. there were only plain mattreses laid on the floor and a ceiling fan and oh ..where's the bathroom..oh no ..no bathroom and guess what it was outside the chalet! By this time both of us were covered with sweat and Awin was supposed to do my make-up and i'm supposed to change into my sponsored clothes to do the hosting .

We just sat at the staircase speechless but we tried to psycho ourselves that there must be another option to this situation and hoping that there must be another air-conditioned chalet . So we just got down to work .

There we were assembling in the hot sun . Imagine me in my Kapas Couture assemble all made up trying to put a straight face with sweat drooling down my face! But you will not be able to see this on the edited version on tv..thats the beauty of it.

After the shoot we were looking for the manager as there were no telecommunication system in the room and the whole entire resort ! I found the manager and asked him whether it was possible to change to an air conditioned chalet and luckily there was one but we had to share it with 3 other production crew of which we happily did coz both of us were not exactly the brave type.. you know. Then suddenly I thought of housekeeping services and asked the manager if he could provide us with towels. He replied ' U girls think you are coming to 5 star hotel is it?..[ with a big laugh]. Then I said 'we don't mind buying towels from you, do you sell any?' . He replied, 'yeah we do at Rm 5 ringgit only you can buy at the canteen'. So we went 'oh great thanks'.

We went straight to the canteen and asked for the towels and you know what....we just couldn't believe what we saw...they sold us 'Winnie the Pooh ' towels half the size of a normal towel and it was so thin!

I had to wipe myself 5 times to get dried up...wow what a challenge. Thought this was supposed to be a test for the contestants but we all had to go through it too!At night if any of us need to go to the toilet we had to go in pairs coz we were too scared to go alone.

Under these circumstances we had to tell ourselves that we have to make the best of the situation and just concentrate on our job tasks. That first night I couldn't sleep till morning coz I was imagining a lot of things that could happen in the jungle.....it was a torture!

The next day the girls did their first challenge which was the 'ala commando' training to test their mental and physical strength. Interesting, lots of drama.

I took a breather at the canteen trying to adjust to the situation and psyche myself that it was not that bad but then.. seconds later came this monkey on the loose towards my direction and of course before he got close I quickly ran ..and it was chasing me all over the resort and I screamed my lungs out till the canteen man realized how scared I was and he chased the monkey and finally tied him back to the tree....phew!!!

The third day was the best that I could remember. We went to a location a short drive from the resort organized by the resort where the girls were given another challenge to do Abseiling at the waterfall and rough water rafting. It was really beautiful when we got there even though I've always had this fear on being in a jungle but this time suddenly that feeling was gone and I don't know how it happened. The best part is I tried the Abseiling at the waterfall and I was not scared or nervous at all... it was an amazing feeling and I couldn't believe myself that I did it.

It was a great adventure after all and a great experience of a lifetime. The people at the resort were very friendly, warm and very accomodating towards our needs and planned the whole itinery of our shoot very efficiently and professionaly. The facilitators were very experienced and full of patience with the girls plus they enjoyed their company too heheheh.

Well above are the pics that represents the chronology of the events.

Bergaya sesuai usia?

BAGI Sharifah Shawati, cara berpakaian perlu diadaptasi mengikut kesesuaian masa, tempat dan masyarakat.

Penampilan perlu yakin dengan ambil kira budaya, elak pandangan negatif masyarakat

APABILA wanita berumur tampil bergaya seperti orang muda, khususnya yang memasuki usia 50 tahun ke atas, pasti ramai melemparkan pandangan dengan pelbagai maksud. Sesetengahnya masih boleh menerima dengan terbuka, tetapi tidak kurang juga yang menjuihkan bibir kerana meluat.

Masyarakat sekeliling memang mudah menjatuhkan hukuman apabila ada individu yang ingin tampil berbeza apatah lagi yang bertentangan dengan latar belakang serta budaya. Sesetengahnya mungkin diselubungi rasa ‘cemburu’ kerana kurang senang melihat wanita berumur bergaya mengalahkan si gadis remaja.

Perunding Imej Adamaya Image Consultancy Malaysia yang juga Ahli Pertubuhan Perunding Imej Antarabangsa (AICI), Sharifah Shawati Syed Mohd, berkata tiada masalah wanita bergaya seperti gadis remaja sekiranya mempunyai tahap keyakinan diri tinggi kerana wanita sebegitu percaya bahawa mereka masih mempunyai kelebihan yang boleh ditonjolkan asalkan berasa selesa berbuat demikian.

Lebih-lebih lagi, jika mereka berada dalam persekitaran yang majoritinya tampil dengan gaya sama dan mereka selalunya tergolong dalam kategori kreatif dan gemar berfesyen, namun tidak semestinya apa yang dipakai itu sesuai dengan mereka.

“Terpulang kepada individu itu sendiri kerana ia membabitkan budaya dan cara hidup serta prinsip diri seseorang. Faktor usia dan budaya memainkan peranan dalam menentukan corak pakaian khususnya dalam masyarakat Melayu yang menekankan kesopanan, adat, tatasusila dan sensitiviti agama Islam itu sendiri iaitu pendedahan aurat tidak dibenarkan.

“Pada peringkat umur menjangkau 40-an ke atas, wanita perlu berpakaian lebih tertib dan menghindari daripada masyarakat buruk sangka serta tidak mengganggu perasaan masyarakat sekeliling. Wanita sering diperhatikan berbanding lelaki. Jika tersalah pilih pakaian boleh mengundang tanggapan kurang enak walaupun pada dasarnya ia tidak bertujuan begitu,” katanya.

Beliau tidak menafikan terdapat segelintir wanita tampil dengan gaya berani akibat krisis emosi atau tekanan. Ini mungkin berpunca daripada isu keretakan hubungan dengan suami yang mendorong mereka berpenampilan lebih menarik. Ada juga wanita yang ingin mencuri perhatian lelaki dengan tujuan untuk mencari pasangan.

“Apapun saya beranggapan bahawa wanita berhak melakukan apa saja yang menggembirakan hati asalkan mereka menghormati keadaan sekeliling dan tidak mengganggu ketenteraman orang lain berpandukan situasi yang betul. Apapun wanita perlu lebih berhati-hati bagi mengelak daripada tohmahan dan anggapan negatif yang mungkin timbul akibat pemilihan pakaian yang keterlaluan. Pada saya gaya ringkas adalah paling sofistikated,” katanya.

Beliau berkata, walaupun sesetengah wanita berpegang kepada prinsip bahawa berpakaian adalah hak mereka yang tidak sepatutnya dipengaruhi orang lain, ia masih termaktub berdasarkan situasi berbeza. Ringkasnya, cara berpakaian perlu diadaptasi mengikut kesesuaian masa, tempat dan masyarakat.

Faktor usia juga perlu diambil kira apabila bergaya kerana ia membabitkan perubahan bentuk badan. Apabila umur kian meningkat wanita melalui perubahan bentuk tubuh yang disebabkan oleh graviti dan proses penuaan. Antaranya perut membuncit sedikit, paha dan pinggul hilang keanjalan, manakala payu dara mula mengendur.

“Pada usia 40-an, pemilihan pakaian terbatas kepada yang longgar dan tidak lagi mengikut bentuk badan kerana ingin menutup ‘cabaran tubuh’ berkenaan. Wanita juga harus menyedari semakin berusia, kulit bertukar sedikit gelap dan wanita perlu mengelak daripada menggunakan warna yang terlalu menonjol kerana ia boleh membuatkan penampilan terlalu drastik. Dalam konteks masyarakat Malaysia, wanita berusia sebaiknya memilih pakaian yang versatail dan klasik kerana ia boleh dipakai pada bila-bila masa dan tahan lama.

“Elakkan daripada memakai skirt paras atas lutut atau mini. Pilihlah baju yang berlengan panjang atau separa panjang supaya tampil lebih sopan. Elakkan daripada memakai seluar yang terlalu sendat, hipster atau seluar pendek. Tina Turner masih memakai mini skirt pada usia 50-an, tetapi dia terkenal kerana mempunyai sepasang kaki yang cantik dan sempurna. Jika anda mempunyai kaki yang gempal dan nampak jelmaan selulit, maka tepuk dada tanya selera! Ingat sentiasa serlahkan kelebihan, tetapi tutup kelemahan diri,” katanya.

Pilihan warna sesuai mengikut kulit juga boleh menaikkan seri wajah. Lebih penting, perlu selesa dengan pakaian berkenaan dan orang lain juga selesa melihat anda. Jika anda berasa kurang yakin dengan sesuatu fesyen dan rasa canggung memakainya maka itu adalah tanda ia tidak sesuai lagi untuk anda. Anda boleh berekperimentasi dengan aksesori eksotik atau unik, tetapi perlu mengekalkan pakaian jenis klasik.

Sharifah Shawati adalah usahawan, perunding imej dan penulis buku ‘Imej-Diri Anda Aset Anda’. Beliau boleh dihubungi di www.adamaya.com.my atau layari blog sharifahshawati.blogspot.com

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Apapun untuk kelihatan lebih muda sebenarnya bermula daripada jiwa yang gembira dan sihat.

Lakukan senaman dan amalkan cara hidup sihat. Jangan merokok dan jaga pemakanan yang sihat.

Wanita gemuk kelihatan lebih tua daripada mereka yang kurus.

Fesyen rambut lurus dan mempunyai sedikit ‘fringe’ akan menampakkan seseorang lebih muda berbanding rambut kerinting.

Elakkan memakai pakaian yang terlalu besar, tetapi cukup sekadar mempunyai potongan.

Pilih warna ikut kesesuaian kulit untuk naikkan seri wajah.

Oleh Halina Mohd Noor halina@bharian.com.my

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