How To Dress On A First Date

It should be about mystery. It's about making them wonder. A slow reveal is more intriguing than a full reveal. Not a Pamela Anderson but more of a Mischelle Pfeiffer you know..

Focus on the fabrics and not exposing too much skin. Silk, cashmere or anything tactile work well. This is the time to pull out your favourite lingerie [ not for him, for you!!], because even if the date is a disaster.. at least you will feel happy.

Be at ease, be superfeminine and roll with the awkward pauses. Don't reveal too much of your personal background on the first date and never pour all your problems and weather report to that poor guy. It will be your first and your last to see him.

Be happy and interesting and act as if you don't care but at times show deep interest in what he's saying [if you like him!!]and maintain eye-contact at all times.

Remember keep it slow and steady. What's the hurry?

Quote:'Is not the most erotic part of the body wherever the clothing affords a glimpse?' by Roland Barthes

How To Dress On A Plane

This is something I truly agree and I read it in a book by an interesting writer named Nina Garcia.

Do not wear a sweatshirt.Not even an expensive one because let me tell you if there is a girl in a sweatsuit and a girl in a cashmere sweater ..and there is the possibility of an upgrade, cashmere beats sweatsuit everytime. The way you present yourself matters.

The nicer you look, the nicer you will be treated. The smile gets more than a frown.

There are some ladies out there who get on the plane in perfect attire, perfect hair, full-on make-up and sunglasses. When they got off the plane, not a single hair out of place! I am not saying that we all need to look this perfect but we should meet halfway between perfection and sweatpants.

One tip I can share with you is that never to sleep with your back of the head lying flat on the head rest.. coz when you get up it will be so flat and not a very good site from the side view. What you can do is to lift up your hair and pin it up before leaning on the head rest. Get your hair blowed curl at the salon and pin it up on the plane. When it lands just let go the pins and you'll have very natural curls and ready to face the world!

Emotional Intelligence

Every time when i meet a group of girlfriends there was never a time I didn't hear any complains about someone being treated badly by the opposite sex either it's their husbands or boyfriends or some are just by their 'casual acquaintances'.

Sometimes the stories seemed so peculiar that it got all of us thinking that these guys must be reading a standard book of 'Guides To Lure Them Then Leave Them...'.
They say the same things, use the same tactics, same words, same modus operandi.It's like the same script but different casts.

The worst thing is women never learn and keep falling for these guys.Why? Aren't there enough nice guys around or we're just not giving them a chance? Another girfriend pointed out that, bad guys are more challenging and fun to be with. Well then who to be blamed for this coz you knew very well what you're in it for so you must be prepared to face the consequences.

This is the reason why we should all have the Emotional Intelligence. The word 'intelligent' means being able to make a smart decision and Emotional Intelligence means being able to make wise decision based on emotions. Have we consciously asked ourselves why did we 'allow' it to happen?

Why did you 'allow' them to treat you in a bad way? Why did you 'allow' them to dump you or why did you 'allow' them to make you cry? The best way to do it is never to 'allow' anything that's below what you deserve.If you don't 'allow' nothing will happen ..at least not the way you didn't want it to be.

So I would suggest for women to set a 'benchmark'[setting a certain standards] in choosing the guys they go out with. NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS and NEVER SELL YOURSELF SHORT! You must remember this! And if they leave eventually , say to yourself ' so what..we had some good moments and I don't really care coz I deserve better and I am worth it'.

Being able to switch your emotions from sadness to psycho-ing yourself with happy things will make you more productive and more attractive. Believe me ,do this and you'll be a happier person.

This is what Emotional Intelligence is all about and all women should master this capability. Another important habit for you to master is the art of being silent.
'Practising silence means making a commitment to just be...' by DEEPAK CHOPRA 'THE 7 SRITUAL LAWS OF SUCCESS'.

Ladies we can do it and again remember set your 'benchmark'!

SYNCRONICITY

Just want to share with you.

Some say, things happen for a reason and some may say that our life journey has been orchestrated by god. My best friend who happens to be a very spiritual person will normally say that 'we owe it to our past lives'and that sometimes someone from the past might come into our lives so suddenly because we have an unfinished business with them in our past lives. Well she does read a lot of Deepak Chopras.....

Nevertheless I did find some truth in what she said after much thought given to it.This is because a person whom I met on the job many years ago came into my life again and initiated something I never thought possible.Then when things started to progress suddenly it turned bad and I was left very dissapointed. If i could recall I did turn the offer down a few years ago and maybe this is the time to get back at me.. but then again I take it as another valuable lesson in life and I thank god for making my life so interesting and colorful!

For the past few months a lot of interesting and wierd things happened to me...some are happy and some are not too happy. I normally would like to just focus on the happy ones and move on. However this time I took the time to ponder a bit on what caused the 'not too happy' ones. I realized that it's all about being able to adjust ourselves in the situation that we're in and be in 'sync' with our environment and the people around us. When I try to relate to 'The Law of Atrraction' written by Michael Lozier again and again...it does make sense and now I believe that it's all about this new word 'syncronicity'. Everything has to be on the same 'frequency'. Like attracts like. If not don't push it.

Utusan Write Up 4th May 2009